To be honest, I hadn't heard much about wands until several years ago when a photographer wanted to tie me to his kitchen table and strap one to me for the shoot. I still haven't seen any of those pics but I guess it's just water under the bridge now. It was a truly eye-opening experience to say the least. I'm still not one of those girls that comes quickly but it definitely did the job, and then some. So I bought my own through Pure Romance and I dearly love it. Especially when we combine it with the Liberator that I got off of Adam & Eve. Today I saw something posted on IG about how to use the wand on a male or female, and since I have two now, I suggested to my cub that we use them in a mutual masturbation session. Right now I just need to relax and release some tension, while you watch of course.